The Very Honest Story of My Triad Journey

I had the honour this week of contributing to the awesome sex positive blog Take Back Your Sex. The original idea was to talk about how our triad started. But because the beginning of our relationship was admittedly pretty rocky and complicated, I couldn’t wrap my head around how to present it fairly in a short blog post. I thought it might be helpful to explain how I ended up in a place where a triad was even an option. This meant telling the story of the decade leading up to when our relationship began in 2013.

So The Three of You Are In Love

The Three of You Are In Love — Congratulations!

Welcome, come in, sit down! However you ended up here — via a threesome, swinging, accidentally finding yourself in love with friends, opening up your relationship and seeking another partner on a dating site, or one of the many other ways you could end up as part of a ménage à trois — the three of you are in love, and we’re happy to have you here.

Do You Wanna Be a Third?

I’ve wanted to be in a triad for a long time. Justan and I talked years ago, in 2001 or so, about how cool it would be to have a girlfriend and all three of us live together. But that was a crazy dream, right?

Over the years I dated other girls and sometimes Justan dated them with me. We never thought that three people could fall in love! Then one day three of us did fall in love. That changed things.