I’ve been studying triads for a few years now – I believe it’s been about three years since I began my preliminary interviews. Happily, those triads whom I initially interviewed back in 2015 are all still together, I believe! I’ve also been in a triad myself since summer 2013.
I’ve been thinking that it’s about time I write up a general overview of what’s happening out there with triads in the world.
For one thing, I feel that there are more and more of them (you). Unfortunately, I can’t say that for sure, because it’s not like the government is asking us to identify ourselves in the census or anything. Some would argue that there have always been lots of triads but that they were just super-secret about their relationships. And sure, there were triads (whether they thought of themselves that way or not). I mean, we have evidence of their existence among historical figures, though it’s hard to tell when three people were in an equal, loving relationship and when they were really in a toxic love triangle. But whether it’s thanks to rising levels of acceptance of more liberal, progressive lifestyles, or just greater visibility thanks to social media, I really do think that more people are either seeking triad relationships, or falling into them accidentally.
There are a few things that I do know, because actual members of actual triads have told me:
I had the honour this week of contributing to the awesome sex positive blog Take Back Your Sex. The original idea was to talk about how our triad started. But because the beginning of our relationship was admittedly pretty rocky and complicated, I couldn’t wrap my head around how to present it fairly in a short blog post. I thought it might be helpful to explain how I ended up in a place where a triad was even an option. This meant telling the story of the decade leading up to when our relationship began in 2013.
The Three of You Are In Love — Congratulations!
Welcome, come in, sit down! However you ended up here — via a threesome, swinging, accidentally finding yourself in love with friends, opening up your relationship and seeking another partner on a dating site, or one of the many other ways you could end up as part of a ménage à trois — the three of you are in love, and we’re happy to have you here.